Study finds 1 in 4 US teens has a STD - Yahoo! News
and linked on the same page...
ABC News: Spitzer Risked Everything He Has...for Sex
Look at the picture of Shpritz with his wife and daughters. Do ya really think they don't have sex or want to have sex or think sex is cool?
In the abstract, sex is canned awesome. It's great. Straight sex, gay sex, whatever. It's grand fun.
In reality, it involves human emotions and humans aren't the most rational creatures around. They fight wars over imaginary events thousands of years ago that no one can honestly say they have any proof ever happened. That may be a basis for meditation, moral and ethical treatment of others, etc., but not war and killing. And yet, we do.
I've had plenty of sex. With my wife and others and so has she. We had our younger swinging days years ago. You know what? It is over, the sex is done, the orgasmic highs are gone and we're left with what we had before that. Each other and an ongoing daily renewed commitment to living with each other in peace. The emotional benefits from that dramatically outweigh sex. Not that we don't have any, but it is not as important as just being able to stand each other.
During the 70s and 80s as America struggled through the aftermath of the sexual riot of the late 60s and early 70s, still groping each other, kids learned that their parents were full of shit. Single moms divorced because they believed anything not forbidden was compulsory. Sure you could live without a husband, but you could also jump off a bridge.
Men decided that if women weren't going to require them, all bets off, time to be a perma-bachelor and screw with abandon.
In the African-American community, this sort of thing was made a horrid and nearly permanent undercurrent and DEFENDED AS A WAY OF LIFE BY WHITE LIBERALS. What the fuck do you have to be smoking to think that a way of life that totally sucked for white families is perfectly cool for black families? Ask a black single mother with three kids how cool it is.
In short, the sexual revolution wasn't fought against anyone but ourselves and we essentially guillotined our own common sense like it was the Reign of Terror. Good going America.
I'm far from a prude. I love sex still and porn is not a problem. People's lack of control and willingness to overindulge absolutely everything that crosses their minds or crotches IS.
So are you really surprised? When I was a teen, it was the height of sophistication for twelve year old junior high girls to bang eighteen year old high school seniors from the football team. It made them cooler than the other girls, more grown up. For boys, it was to get any sex at all, and drink.
What were their influences? Playboy martini and jiggly Playmate parties. Sex in movies and television being depicted WITHOUT the emotional consequences, WITHOUT the human dimension and WITHOUT parents drilling it into them that sex is great in theory, very difficult to make right in practice given human emotion and cultural aspects.
In theory, we could lower the age of consent and as soon as puberty hits we could fuck and suck for all day. In practice, most thirty year olds I know of either gender should be stuck in chastity belts or locked in a room with Kleenex and a Penthouse for a decade until they grow up.
We're human, and we have drawbacks, and we need to take them seriously and account for them in raising the next generation. We must NOT give them false impressions and we must NOT gloss over our doubts about our abilities to conduct ourselves properly in the sexual arena just because we're horny. As one adult put to me as a teen, when in doubt, don't date, masturbate.
Have you seen Bratz dolls? Have you seen Barbie? Have you seen MTV? Have you seen prime time television? Okay, now have you seen anyone actually showing the true aftermath of the 70s sexual debacle?
No, and that's why this statistic is not shocking to me in the slightest. What's shocking is the utter cluelessness this country still operates under in the name of fearing conservatism. It's not prudery, it's common sense. STOP FUCKING LONG ENOUGH TO HEAR YOURSELF THINK.
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